Do I Really Have To Be Close To My Planner?
This is a universal question that honestly lots of couples have because let’s be real, at the end of the day, you’re signing a contract with someone and they are doing a job for you right? Wrong. Well, it is true you’re signing a contract and they are doing a job for you, but if that’s all a planner did for you anyone could do it.
Your planner is going to be working with you for a year most likely and that’s going to feel like a long year if you are just on ok terms with them. So, let’s dive into some reasons why it’s crucial to be close to them.
1. This is Is The Biggest Day of Your Life
This is probably the most important reason for you. It’s the day you’ve looked forward to for so long! You want to feel like the person planning that day knows you and your fiancé so well that you would trust them to make decisions for you on that day if they had to. They will be the ones dealing with your vendors, guests, and family members, you want them to feel trusted.
2. You Want Your Vision To Be Executed
Let’s think about the typical things you think about when it comes to planning a wedding. Establishing a budget, finding a venue, booking a caterer, all the typical things right? While anyone can call and book these, how would someone know what you want? How would they know if you want an intimate ceremony under the open skies or a sacred ceremony in a church on the hilltop? These are questions that aren’t answered with “What’s your ideal get size?” These are answered through elaborative questions like “Close your eyes and imagine your dream wedding, describe what it looks like.” And through just the first few questions you can tell if your planner truly cares about carrying out your vision or if they care more about what is easiest or more convenient for them.
3. Valuable Memories
When you look through your photos from that day, you want to think about all the wonderful emotions you felt that day. No one wants to feel like they regret the person they chose to execute that day for them. These are memories you will hold with you for the rest of your lives, your planner should be doing everything they can to make it a positive experience and one that you will look back fondly on.
So with all of these things top of mind, you might be thinking what 99% of readers are thinking. I’ll hire a friend to plan my wedding! Let me be the first to tell you this probably isn’t the best idea. I know what you might be thinking, but you just said find someone you trust and that you’re close to, but here’s how that can harm your big day.
Conflict of interest: Sometimes your planner has to make the hard decisions and maybe deliver some information your friend wouldn’t want to. Your planner is going to be your biggest advocate when it comes to having those tough conversations with family members.
Not able to be present for your day: Planning the big day is just the half of it, actually making sure things are executed properly on the big day is equally as important. How can your bridesmaid make sure the caterers show up on time and the reception space is coming together if she is in hair and makeup? The stress of trying to go back and forth from even guest to planner can be tricky to handle and leads to not being able to enjoy the day in full.
Risk of miscommunication: This reason ties into the above. The risk of things going south and there being miscommunication is much more likely when your planner has another job that day. You want their undivided attention to be on executing the most seamless day so that when things do come up throughout the day they can deal with them without any distractions.
So, while I think you should eventually be friends with your planner, I don’t think your planner should be your friend. That’s why when looking for one, check out their Instagram, look through their website, vet them out! Make sure it is someone you would trust with this day and someone that gets you and your fiancé. Because at the end of the day, that’s what’s most important. If they aren’t making a consistent effort to get to know you, I’d take some time to consider before signing that contract!
